Friday, 15 July 2016

I Won't Act My Age - Should Age Influence Hobbies?

Following on from a fabulous weekend watching Take That in Hyde Park with my best friend (you can read a bit about that here), I spent my Tuesday morning waiting outside a local radio station to meet Olly Murs on his 'You Don't Know Love' radio tour.  I had fun talking to others in the queue (there were maybe 60-80 of us there in all) and the time passed pretty quickly.  Luckily the rain held off and it was neither too hot or too cold - pretty much perfect weather for waiting outside. 

Olly arrived just before midday and the staff at the station invited fans in to watch his live stream being filmed, so we all crammed into the foyer to hear him share how proud he is of his forthcoming album and that there will be a tour next year. 

Meeting Olly, 12.07.2016

When the interview was over we were all ushered outside and politely reformed the queue to each have our moment with Olly.  It really was nothing more than a moment - his schedule for the radio tour is incredibly tight - but everyone got their chance for a selfie and a hug.  He's smiley and friendly and looked genuinely thrilled that people had turned up to see him and support the new single.  I had fun.

I mentioned in my Take That post about being all or nothing when it comes to being a fan, that's just the way I am.  But recently some of the comments I've received for being an avid fan of pop music have taken me by surprise.  People have told me I'm too old, that I should grow up, that there must be better things to do with my time than hanging around waiting for snatched selfies with people I admire or spending hours queuing to be at the front of a pit. 

Waiting is part of the fun

My response is always a firm 'no'.  I like to actively support singers/musicians/actors/actresses/authors/whoever else brings me pleasure.  This means buying the records they make, the books they write, tickets to the shows they're performing in.  If they're making a personal appearance where they invite fans to come for autographs and photos, I'll likely go along if I can make it.  I'll wait hopefully at stage doors after performances wanting to tell them how much joy they've brought me and if they can spare a moment of their time for me then wonderful, and if not that's fine too.  And I think that's okay, actually. I never shove cameras in anyone's face, or get autographs to sell on ebay or steal underwear off their washing lines.  I'm not a total weirdo and I am under no illusions.  These are real people doing real (if slightly extraordinary) jobs.

So why do people judge me over it?  Why is it reasonably acceptable to do when you're young, but not when you're over a certain age?  I genuinely don't understand it. 

What baffles me even more is that when I talk about other interests I have, things like bingo and crossstitch, I'm called a granny or a fogey.  There are, it seems, very few hobbies that some sections of society feel are appropriate for a thirty-something.  Wife/mother/career woman are acceptable options, fangirl/bingo addict/knitter are not.  As it happens, I'm all of the above, but even if I wasn't, why should it matter?  Life is full of the mundane, seek happiness wherever you can! 

I always say I'm not going to let other people's opinions bother me.  As an introvert, they invariably do.  But I want to tell anyone reading this that if something brings you pleasure, it's never a waste of time, and don't let anyone else tell you that it is.  Don't let people belittle what makes you happy either. One Direction.  Pokémon Go.  Basket weaving.  BMXing.  Gardening.  Line dancing.  Age limits do not apply to hobbies, and nor should they. 

Life is, sadly, short.  Go and do what makes your heart sing.

The title of this blog post comes from Act My Age by One Direction.


  1. Nodding and smiling along with you Katey! As a 35 year old cosplayer, online gamer and pokemon hunter, I love my nerdy life and wouldn't have it any other way. Much love, Tils. xx

    1. Thanks Tils :D For what it's worth, although I've never cosplayed I love seeing other people's creations! I think it's an awesome hobby.

  2. I Love that! Hi Katey, I must say I never had a proper hobby, I enjoy music, films, singers and actors, but i had never been a fan follower, must of the time, I don't even know their names. However, I always loved football, and used to play for hours with my brothers. Despite of my love for football I went to a stadium once in my 47 years of life. Any way, to make the story short, I've been looking for a girls football team the last 2, 3 years, and finally found it. I am loving it. I am playing 3 times a week and it feels so good! You are right, lets do what we love, be happy and make others around us happy too! E Williams xx

    1. So pleased you've found something that makes you happy, Elaine! There's nothing like doing what makes you happy xx

  3. I am nodding along and agreeing with you lovely. I am 38 and still feel like I'm 18. Still watch Pretty Little Liars and Gilmore Girls, read YA or younger, etc. It's what makes you happy, keep doing what you are doing xx


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